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What We Resist Persists

In the ever-evolving journey of life, we encounter various challenges and obstacles. Often, our natural response is to resist these challenges, hoping they will go away. However, there's a profound paradox at play: "What we resist persists." In this blog, we will explore this timeless wisdom and delve into how resistance can be messages trying to support you, but if not recognized, can be very counterproductive. More importantly, we will discuss how embracing acceptance can lead to personal growth, peace, and lasting change.

The Paradox of Resistance

Before delving into the dynamics of resistance, it's crucial to understand the paradox behind it. When we resist something, whether it's a difficult emotion, a challenging situation, or an uncomfortable truth, we inadvertently give it more power over us. It's as if we're trying to push it away, but in doing so, we end up holding onto it more tightly.

Why do we resist?

  1. Fear of the unknown: Change can be scary, and we often resist it because we fear the uncertainty that comes with it. We prefer the familiar, even if it's not serving us well.

  2. Ego protection: Our ego often perceives change or admitting fault as a threat to our self-image. Thus, we resist anything that challenges our self-concept.

  3. Short-term comfort: Resistance can provide temporary relief by avoiding discomfort. However, in the long run, it often exacerbates our problems.

The Consequences of Resistance

  1. Emotional turmoil: Constantly resisting negative emotions can lead to jsut that; anxiety, stress, and even depression. By denying our feelings, we fuel their persistence.

  2. Stagnation: Resisting change or personal growth keeps us stuck in old patterns, preventing us from evolving and reaching our full potential.

  3. Strained relationships: Resistance can manifest in interpersonal conflicts. Avoiding difficult conversations or denying our role in conflicts can harm our relationships.

The Power of Acceptance

So, how can we break free from the cycle of resistance and invite positive change into our lives? The answer lies in acceptance.

Acceptance doesn't mean passive surrender or resignation. It means acknowledging reality as it is, without judgment or resistance. Here's how it can help:

  1. Emotional liberation: When we accept our emotions, even the uncomfortable ones, they lose their grip on us. We can process them in a moe halthy and let them go.

  2. Transformation: Acceptance is the first step toward meaningful change. By acknowledging our challenges, we can address them more effectively.

  3. Improved relationships: Acceptance fosters understanding and empathy. It allows us to see others' perspectives and engage in constructive dialogues.

Practical Steps Towards Acceptance

  1. Mindfulness: Practice mindfulness to become more aware of your thoughts,emotions and actions. Observing without judgment is the first step toward acceptance.

  2. Self-compassion: Treat yourself with the same kindness and understanding you would offer to a friend facing a similar situation.

  3. Seek support: Share your thoughts and feelings with trusted friends, family, or a coach or therapist who can provide guidance and support.

The old adage, "What we resist persists," holds profound wisdom. By resisting our challenges, we inadvertently prolong their presence in our lives. Embracing acceptance, on the other hand, allows us to break free from this cycle and experience personal growth, emotional liberation, and stronger relationships. It's not always easy, but the rewards are well worth the effort. So, the next time you find yourself resisting something, consider the power of acceptance and the positive change it can bring into your life.

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Meet Jess Fraser, a vibrant Life Coach, retreat facilitator, podcast host, blogger, and avid book lover. With a passion for adventure, personal growth and transformation, Jess guides individuals on their journey towards self-discovery and empowerment. Her insightful writings and engaging podcasts inspire others to embrace change and embrace their true selves. If you enjoyed this article and would like to stay connected, join Jess at to explore her latest projects, including her empowering guided journal, "Courage to Change Journal." Together, let's continue the journey of self-reflection, growth, and creating a life filled with courage and purpose.

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