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12 Signs I'm Holding Back

Updated: Oct 10, 2023

Recognizing the signs and symptoms of resistance is essential in understanding how it impacts in your life. I am also going to keep this simple, as just a blog to help you recognize your own resistance indicators. You may also like the blog What We Resist Persists too, for a deeper Dive.

Secondly as your coach, I have decided to write this blog in the first person with the specific intent to help you more easily determine which indicators you fall into. It will hit home much more when reading it in the form of 'I' or 'me.' This personal approach will make it easier for you to relate to the indicators and recognize where resistance might be affecting your life.

I am also going to keep this simple, as just a blog to help you recognize your own indicators. Another article you may like to dig into, should you be ready to start working through the things that are holding you back, is (article to be written still)."

Common Resistance Indicators

  1. Denial: I might find myself denying that a problem or issue exists. I may say things like, "It's not a big deal," or "I'm fine," when, in reality. . . I'm not.

  2. Procrastination: I may delay taking action on something important as a sign of resistance. I find excuses to put off tasks that I know need to be addressed.

  3. Anger and Frustration: I feel unusually angry or frustrated, especially in response to specific situations or people, which can indicate resistance. This emotional reaction often masks underlying opposition to what's happening.

  4. Blame: If I frequently blame others for my problems or circumstances, it could be a way of deflecting responsibility and avoiding self-reflection.

  5. Perfectionism: I set unrealistically high standards for myself as a form of resistance. It's a way to avoid taking action or put me out of ever realistically being able to complete them, to meet those standards.

  6. Overthinking: I engage in excessive rumination and overanalyze situations as a way to avoid making decisions or taking action. Keeping me in a state of indecision and inaction.

  7. Physical Symptoms: I may experience physical manifestations of resistance as well. Stress-related symptoms like tension headaches, muscle pain, and gastrointestinal issues can be signs of unresolved resistance. There are a number of ways this can show up in my body.

  8. Negative Self-Talk: I constantly berate myself or engage in self-criticism, indicating resistance to self-acceptance or acknowledgment of my own limitations.

  9. Avoidance: I avoid situations, conversations, or people that trigger discomfort or anxiety, which is a classic sign of resistance. This can include avoiding difficult discussions with loved ones.

  10. Defensiveness: I become defensive or reactive when someone offers feedback or constructive criticism as a way of resisting their input.

  11. Unhealthy Coping Mechanisms: I may turn to substances like alcohol, drugs, or excessive food as a way to numb emotions or escape reality, which can be a sign of resistance.

  12. Lack of Progress: If I consistently feel stuck in my personal or professional life and see no progress or positive change, it may be due to resistance.

Recognizing these signs and symptoms of resistance is the first step toward addressing it. Once you become aware of your resistance patterns, you can work on practicing acceptance and making positive changes in your life.

Share with us which Resistance Indicators resonate most with your experiences. By participating in a quick 15 second survey , you'll receive a FREE Resistance Worksheet sent directly to your email. This worksheet is designed to help you initiate the process of breaking free from resistance and start living your fullest life. Your insights can be the first step towards positive change and personal growth.

Don't forget to check out the blog What We Resist Persists. this will dig deeper on you and resistance.

Meet Jess Fraser, a vibrant Life Coach, retreat facilitator, podcast host, blogger, and avid book lover. With a passion for adventure, personal growth and transformation, Jess guides individuals on their journey towards self-discovery and empowerment. Her insightful writings and engaging podcasts inspire others to embrace change and embrace their true selves. If you enjoyed this article and would like to stay connected, join Jess at to explore her latest projects, including her empowering guided journal, "Courage to Change Journal." Together, let's continue the journey of self-reflection, growth, and creating a life filled with courage and purpose.

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